I couldn’t have said it better myself…we are most definitely the LOST generation. I will say though that sometimes its not the money…he may just be a charmer. Well then again, maybe it is the money, but not the actual money but the possibility of obtaining it…at some point, hopefully, I guess. LOL This is the best one yet! I can’t wait to read the comments! Personally, my choice would be determined by what I’m looking for at that moment. If I’m at a good place career-wise etc. I’d prefer to be a WIFE, not a wifey. Wifey is a term of endearment and doesn’t guarantee matrimony. Although, matrimony doesn’t seem to be the ultimate goal anymore…until it is alimony works just as well. *snicker*

Girl this is great!!! I love how you showed both sides of the equation. We live in an age of instant self-gratification & not
minding hurting ppl and ourselves in the long run to get what we want NOW, but every action has an equal & opposite reaction.
“Fast money goes fast.” “Live fast, die young.”.
Splurging > Saving = Hood rich, but No Family Inherantance
Sexual & Material Gratification > Family, growth & love= Broken hearts, broken homes & True Love will face extinction
Living in sin, bad choices(physical pleasure)> Living in Love, Living 4 God=Pain, Failure & Spiritual death

The only way to get rid of the symptoms of a much larger problem is “1+0=1″

We have to become “0″ in order to become “1″ w/ the Creator, others, and live life to our GREATEST potential!

Really simply, this question can be answered in one word: BENEFITS. You can be the jumpoff all you want. Anything happens to that man, you don’t get shit. The wife gets it ALL. Remember Diary of a Mad Black Woman? Jumpoff doesn’t get to pull the plug either. No decisions, no insurance money (even if she is the beneficiary, the wife can contest in court and WIN), no next of kin designation.

The men are at fault here though because they are giving the jumpoffs wife privileges. That’s how you end up with the other woman coming in and killing the man, all sorts of B.S.

So, before you marry that man – especially the one with status and money – be prepared for him to have the other woman. He may not have one, but it is what it is, EVERYTHING has a price and a trade-off. And you don’t know what you’ll do until you’re actually in that situation. It’s been that way since before the rise of the Roman empire. It’s not going to change any time soon.

But on the real, get the ring, sign the papers… if all else fails, wives are suing the jumpoffs and winning.

Me personally its no comparison in the 2. I like dignified woman with morals unfortunately..Yo good lookin on the video post!

This is is a good question. I think its always better to be the jump off. No one woman wants her husband to cheat unless she is only in it for the money and plans on getting a divorce..

however,if the side chick is really in love and has dreams of being with this man and actually thinks he will leave his family for her it could be just as tough as being the wife.. But if she is looking to come up and get a reality tv show it would work in her favor.

I’m kind of biased towards jump offs myself. I think most men are looking for a wife or wife material whether they admit it or not. The problem is that we don’t understand women and based on the individual lady’s personal concept of “open and honest communication”, there is just no hope of keeping a relationship together.

Then again, I’m bitter.

Sex is more fun with jump offs anyway. Shit can be experimental olympian shit.

You can go for broke. Aint nobody trying to injure they wife. You gotta hear about that shit all night, the next day, the next week, etc.

I say no to jump offs… Legitimate, promulgated relationships replete with love are most edifying. If you want “Olympian sex,” be forthright with your loved one. I don’t see why having an “open and notorious” relationship, good sex, and the ability to shower a loved one with gifts have to be mutually exclusive.

WOW INTERESTING! HONESTLY I HAVE PLAYED BOTH ROLES AND AS CRAZY AS IT SOUNDS I THINK IT PUTS ME AHEAD OF THE GAME. I DONT THINK MARRIAGE VALIDATES HOW MUCH 2 PEOPLE LOVE EACH OTHER BUT IT DEFINITELY GIVES YOU THAT SENSE OF SECURITY. IF HE DIES I NEED TO KNOW IM GOING TO BE OK. ESPECIALLY IF I HAVE INVESTED IN THE RELATIONSHIP. SOMETIMES BEING THE JUMP IS EASIER BECAUSE ITS WAY LESS RESPONSIBILITY. YOU DONT HAVE TO DEAL WITH ANYTHING OUTSIDE OF THE RELATIONSHIP, IT JUST IS WHAT IT IS. BUT THE NEGATIVE SIDE OF THAT IS THAT YOU DO START TO DEVELOP FEELINGS AND AS WOMEN WHEN WE’RE IN LOVE WE WANNA SHOUT IT OUT TO THE WORLD BUT YOU CANT DO THAT IF HE HAS SOMETHING ELSE GOING ON. AND WITH ALL THE SOCIAL NETWORKING SITES ITS NOT HARD TO FIND OUT WHATS GOING ON. SO WHEN YOU FIND HIS WIFE ON FACEBOOK WITH PICS OF HIM AND HER AND THEIR NEW BABY YOU FEEL PRETTY FUCKED UP. THEN AS WIFE OF COURSE YOU GET FIRST DIBS TO EVERYTHING YOU GET ALL THE KEYS AND SECURITY CODES. I THINK THE HARDEST THING IS GOING FROM THE SIDE CHICK TO THE MAIN CHICK, BECAUSE YES SOME MEN DO LEAVE THEIR WIVES TO BE WITH THE OTHER WOMAN. NOW YOUR IN A POSITION THAT YOU FEEL YOU WELL DESERVED BECAUSE YOU’VE LOVED THIS MAN FOR SO LONG AND EVEN WHEN YOU KNEW HE WAS IN ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP YOU REMAINED FAITHFUL TO HIM. BUT NOW YOUR DEALING WITH HIS FAMILY AND HIS KIDS. ITS NOT JUST YOU AND HIM ANYMORE ITS EVERYBODY WHICH IS A VERY HARD TRANSITIONS BECAUSE SOMETIMES YOU REALLY JUST DONT WANT TO BE BOTHERED. THEN IN THE BACK OF YOUR MIND YOU ARE JUST WAITING FOR KARMA TO COME ATTACK YOU. SO I THINK IT ADVANTAGES AND DISADVANTAGES TO BOTH…YOU DECIDE WHICH ROLE YOU WANT TO PLAY.

Personally, I would never like to be considered a “jumpoff”. I believe in a relationships being whatever works for the person. Maybe, one person is fun and great but not meant to be in a marriage. Marriage isn’t meant for everyone. But, marriage is still an important constitution for a lot of people (including men). About money…that really depends on the individual as well. I am thrilled to see my partner grow as a person as well as in success and financially. Some women see potential, some want it all up front. It’s every womans choice to make herself.

Ladies being a wife is way better than being a jump off. Its simple God made you to be a treasure to men, not to be a piece of ass. Dont let no man disrespect you by just taking sex with no tradeoff and money is not the tradeoff. God made women to accompany and man through life, serve your purpose find the man that loves you and makes feel like a Queen. He will cherish you and make you feel like the best women in the world. Men respect what respects themselves…that simple. If you let him throw money to get your panties off he’s not going to respect you.Sex is something that can be taught to make it good…Love teaches…try it and I bet God blesses beyond your imagination…

This is my opinion, there is no feelings involved when it comes to jump offs. if you know a guy’s situation (Married) but you still make a conscious decision to have sexual relationship with the dude and you catch feelings, that is your own fault. If a dude wanted to leave his life and be with you, he would. Till that happens, you are just a sexual object, like a blow-up doll in the back of the closet on the left behind the church suits. If thats the kind of woman you like to be, then by all means,be a jump off. Alot of these dudes these days are showing these jump offs too much love/ feelings, and that changes the whole dynamic of the relationship. Im not saying they dont deserve love, but that situation is one big lie. Dude does not give a damn about you, and he DAMN sure aint trusting you with his estate. Trust is a big deal. The WIFE gets that privilege.

Every time a person whose famous is involved in a “scandal” like this, everybody panics. If You are going to change your whole life,morals,and all your values based off something you seen on tv,read online or magazine,that right there shows you have serious problems. We live in a world where even Reality shows are fabricated. We dont know the ins and outs of anyone in the spotlight’s relationships,especially not these days. YOU ARE NOT THEM. Worry about your own.

There is nothing wrong with expecting the best in a relationship, but there is something wrong with you if you expect a perfect relationship.

Fuck that, Broham. I’ve been there, done that. Being forthright has nothing to do with it.

Jumpoffs >>>>> Typical wife situation.

If you’re lucky enough to find love, then you’re lucky. If you’re even luckier and are able to hold on to it, that’s fantastic. In many ways, for many people, it might be ideal. MIGHT be.

Romance itself is a beautiful thing. That said, I’d much rather have someone I can spend an incredible evening with that I know will be LEAVING before I take my ass to bed.

I aint married no mo’!

Boo! That’s like saying you aren’t getting something from the transaction. You’re getting sex too! Cmon, now. What y’all got is no more important than what we’ve got.

Trust is for the trustworthy. Aint too many fitting that bill. And in a climate where everyone is for self first, might as well get in where you fit in.

True, its like the 80′s when they flooded areas with crack and guns so we’d eventually kill each other,this is like the new crack generation, but with relationships,Lol.

Yes Mam, become “0″ means to humble yourself and be LOVE-centric rather than EGO-centric. Love and live without expecting anything in return. Put God and others before yourself…but of course be strong and discerning, don’t let others take advantage or walk all over you…lol

That’s the solution to this prob and many if not all others.

-Sophe;)