In an age where it seems evil is good and ying is yang, jump off’s are getting better perks than wives are. How is that you’re a jumpoff  yet you’re cast on the Real Housewives Of Atlanta?   While the wife of the same man who paid for the jumpoff’s boobs, lips and “makeup” has to grin and bear it, albeit with some benefits of her own I’m sure.  Wouldn’t want to give up that title of Mrs. Big would we?  Why should she?

What is the purpose of getting married in this new age of celebrity fanatics (stans) and reality TV?  Love and marriage in a mere 3 months?  Our desire for instant gratification has tarnished the age old marriage union.  Phylicia Rashād’s (Claire Huxtable) ex husband is now on his fourth marriage.  He left her for billionaire Sale Johnson who is the ex wife of New York Jets and Johnson & Johnson owner Woody Johnson.  Not to mention Shaq and Shaunie, Jill Scott and Lyzel, Dwayne and Siohvaughn, A-Rod and Cynthia, Madonna and Guy, Melinda and D-Nice, Allen Iverson and Tawanna etc.  These marriages,  divorces and remarriages all make my head spin.

All I really want is to be happy, To find a love that’s mine, it would be so sweet – Mary J. Blige

This is all makes me wonder what’s the big deal about being a wifey nowadays? I mean I could live a pretty lavish life, minus some of the stress and pain if I just became a mistress, a libertine, a kept woman. Wearing the brand of scarlet letter sure ain’t as damning as it has been in decades past.  Homewrecker?  Please. Tiger’s lil “homewrecker” landed a correspondent job on Extra.

Who really has it better? While the wife is lied to and has everything hidden from them, the mistress knows the deal coming into the situation.  But to be in love with a married man and have to hide your true feelings from the world, his family and sometimes yourself is a tremendous burden on your soul.

Obviously, the big draw in being with a cheating man seems to be his money. (more…)